Samajath vadnare anaitik sambandh,
maitri chi haddahat honare milan, samaja la badlat aahe.
konacha dosh aahe? guntlele sambandh, swantra vichar, kiva aplayat honara badal,
jyachi janiv honya agodharch, jivan navin andharat samahun jato.
Ujwal bhavisya chi apeksha thevun,
andharat jhale lya chukiya, manus vishrun pudhe paay sursurit wadvat aahe.
Jivan, kase hi aso, nazre tham thevun surya la bagat ahe.
aaj cha manus, sarirala sukhancha dar, ani manala sabdhancha maal, karun taklela ahe.
Prem, apulki, sambandh, ani maitri yancha bazaar karun taklela ahe.
Aajche vichar, dronacharya ahe, aplya sukhan samor, na aai, na baba, na dada ani na tai hawa konala.
Ashya badaltya samajala kon javabdar aahe? ghadnari ghosti, mislat asleli don dishanche vichar, pashcyat avran, jivnat vadnari asimit apeksha....
mi manhto....tumhi aykaal ka...
junya vichar, vikaal ka,
sabhya darbar, ughdal ka,
majhya premala, devachya navsala theval ka,
Me kelelya papancha paschyatap tumhi karal ka.
Kahi prasnanche uttar swata kade asto pan aapan shodhto sagli kade.
Je hawa asto aaplela te dusryachya hatat bagwat nahi.
ka dilat jivan asa amala ki, apla sukhachya pudeh kahi disat nahi.
Monday, June 21, 2010
Marriage - Failure or Success
Taking you through a short real life story of a friend who failed in marriage and has not been able to decide why and how did this happen with him?
He loved and was very much committed to his partner but one day he met a female friend and out of curiosity peep in her personal life. The features, personal quality, new taste of life and new experience made him more comfortable with the female friend and avoided the spouse in day to day life.
The relationship deepened and feelings crossed all the boundaries of curiosity which pulled him out of his commitment towards his spouse. Soon he realized that he was wrong and tried to cover up but on the other hand the spouse's insecurity and anger to take revenge explored new avenues of relationship to trap and build a case against the husband. These worsen their personal relationship that they had built in many years. New relationship got opened and explored in teaching each other a lesson finally landed with irreparable damages to the relationship testing the temperament of each other without realizing the future of such new avenues.
Both soon realized that they went a long way to pull each other down and the new relationship became means of advantage for others who gained from it.
Today, the husband is ashamed of what he did to his wife and similarly the wife also repents for the impatience she showed for sustaining her relationship.
Several years of care and attention was forgotten in few days of relationship. Neither of them is happy today. Who is to blamed? The destiny or partners themselves
Before the entry of new women in the husband's life, their bonding and relationship was appreciated in every social gathering, neighborhood and society. Their marriage was considerred successful but a hard blown wind made the relationship collapsed because the basic structure on which the relationship was standing itself had many cracks and loopholes. One hit collapsed the relationship that sustained for years.
I tried to go to the root of the cause. Why did the committed husband cross his boundaries of marriage? Why did the women take such weird steps even after knowing her husband for so many years?
The reason was two fold
1. Trust never existed between the two but both falsely made each other believe that they are made for each other. Both had many hidden truths that they could not openly share to each other and believed that the other will never come to know.
2. The expectations of adjustments from each other was increasing and both had started making the other believe that he/she cannot take it further or it is difficult for her/him to support anymore. Solution to escape from such adjustments, made them to callously direct the other partner to look outside the existing relationship. Both believed that neither of them will be able to get it outside and the other would have to do adjustments in life and come back to the other..... but the destiny had a surprise for each of them....googly bold both the partners and sent them back to pavillion where they have a 14th men role to play..... feeling pitty please dont do that as they are still surviving there are many who do suicide .... and end their sorrow and pain with their life....without realizing the precious gift given by God was for a bigger goal....
Today their path of life is totally changed and neither of them can come together as the above reasons have aggravated.
What happened to their new relationship? The failure never allowed them to settle in new relationship and finally all the relationship collapsed as every moment and support was compared with the previous partner's bench mark and this added more problem because the trust and adjustments increased more because the new relationship was holding them individually, new relationship could not hold their expectations for long.
The failure continued and new avenues become a habit. The committed couples though were not a true couple in life but had claimed success in marriage with adourable relationship in the eyes of the society and were at least able to fulfill their basic needs with limited trust and many adjustments in life, had they not discontinued their marriage relationship?
Some one said that "House integrates relationships, pleasure disintegrates relationships."
He loved and was very much committed to his partner but one day he met a female friend and out of curiosity peep in her personal life. The features, personal quality, new taste of life and new experience made him more comfortable with the female friend and avoided the spouse in day to day life.
The relationship deepened and feelings crossed all the boundaries of curiosity which pulled him out of his commitment towards his spouse. Soon he realized that he was wrong and tried to cover up but on the other hand the spouse's insecurity and anger to take revenge explored new avenues of relationship to trap and build a case against the husband. These worsen their personal relationship that they had built in many years. New relationship got opened and explored in teaching each other a lesson finally landed with irreparable damages to the relationship testing the temperament of each other without realizing the future of such new avenues.
Both soon realized that they went a long way to pull each other down and the new relationship became means of advantage for others who gained from it.
Today, the husband is ashamed of what he did to his wife and similarly the wife also repents for the impatience she showed for sustaining her relationship.
Several years of care and attention was forgotten in few days of relationship. Neither of them is happy today. Who is to blamed? The destiny or partners themselves
Before the entry of new women in the husband's life, their bonding and relationship was appreciated in every social gathering, neighborhood and society. Their marriage was considerred successful but a hard blown wind made the relationship collapsed because the basic structure on which the relationship was standing itself had many cracks and loopholes. One hit collapsed the relationship that sustained for years.
I tried to go to the root of the cause. Why did the committed husband cross his boundaries of marriage? Why did the women take such weird steps even after knowing her husband for so many years?
The reason was two fold
1. Trust never existed between the two but both falsely made each other believe that they are made for each other. Both had many hidden truths that they could not openly share to each other and believed that the other will never come to know.
2. The expectations of adjustments from each other was increasing and both had started making the other believe that he/she cannot take it further or it is difficult for her/him to support anymore. Solution to escape from such adjustments, made them to callously direct the other partner to look outside the existing relationship. Both believed that neither of them will be able to get it outside and the other would have to do adjustments in life and come back to the other..... but the destiny had a surprise for each of them....googly bold both the partners and sent them back to pavillion where they have a 14th men role to play..... feeling pitty please dont do that as they are still surviving there are many who do suicide .... and end their sorrow and pain with their life....without realizing the precious gift given by God was for a bigger goal....
Today their path of life is totally changed and neither of them can come together as the above reasons have aggravated.
What happened to their new relationship? The failure never allowed them to settle in new relationship and finally all the relationship collapsed as every moment and support was compared with the previous partner's bench mark and this added more problem because the trust and adjustments increased more because the new relationship was holding them individually, new relationship could not hold their expectations for long.
The failure continued and new avenues become a habit. The committed couples though were not a true couple in life but had claimed success in marriage with adourable relationship in the eyes of the society and were at least able to fulfill their basic needs with limited trust and many adjustments in life, had they not discontinued their marriage relationship?
Some one said that "House integrates relationships, pleasure disintegrates relationships."
women-men relationship
The changing world demands to know the human relationship and this blog will describe the relationship which change with time.
Why lovers fail?
Why followers gain?
Why commitment is perishing in relationship?
Why men are less committed then the women, is it a psychological difference or social position that make them like that?
Why married persons do not want to take responsibility of thier older parents?
Similarly why do they believe that their children will not do it, when the children have seen the treatement that their parent's have given to their parent?
Why two womens from same family get into obsession with one men?
What comes to the mans advantage while engaging two or more women in his life?
Why do marriages fail and what we claim as successful marriage do you believe it is successful in true sense?
Why lovers fail?
Why followers gain?
Why commitment is perishing in relationship?
Why men are less committed then the women, is it a psychological difference or social position that make them like that?
Why married persons do not want to take responsibility of thier older parents?
Similarly why do they believe that their children will not do it, when the children have seen the treatement that their parent's have given to their parent?
Why two womens from same family get into obsession with one men?
What comes to the mans advantage while engaging two or more women in his life?
Why do marriages fail and what we claim as successful marriage do you believe it is successful in true sense?
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